commitment

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One area of my life where I have always struggled is commitment. I’ve never been able to actually sit down and talk, think, or write about my future. I’ve been afraid of wanting the wrong things, of having the wrong dreams or goals.

It makes me rather upset.

I haven’t felt stable in a relationship, friendship, or any type of situation that could be considered long term. I always worry about the future and what would happen if the situation ends. I also have a tendency to worry about what other people think. It’s really starting to mess with my head.

I’ve been afraid of loving myself and becoming confident in my goals and ideas because of the possibility of failing or being mocked. This is really starting to hurt me, as it is beginning of stop me from moving forward in various aspects of my life.

It is hard for me to be verbal about the things that I want or need, I don’t feel very confident in myself. I don’t feel comfortable in making decisions or choices for myself. I am hoping to work on this over the month of August.

Do you have any tips, tricks, or advice on commitment and how to overcome this fear?

6 Comments

  1. I think you have to put that fear aside and commit to the relationship/friendship/ etc. That is the only way you can truly be happy or fulfilled. If you only commit partially, you can only get partial joy from it.

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    1. I agree with you, but it is for sure something easier said then done. With partial commitment, I feel as though I am always back and forth on what I should do, and then I get disappointed in myself.

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  2. I struggle with the same thing and I wish I had an answer to solve this. I write down all my wishes and wants in life (no matter how small or strange) just so I have it on paper and out of my head. I find working on the smaller commitments helps build up to the more scary ones.

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    1. Good for you! I am so glad you found something that works for you! You might want to check out something called “mind mapping” (google it, there are a ton of informative websites!)

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